When you want to lose weight, you need to change certain behaviors and ways of thinking that may in fact be central to your life. It's very common for someone to feel two different ways about making this kind of change: I want to and I don't want to.
The reason for this ambivalence is that people become very attached to their behaviors. This is a normal aspect of life. It's pretty much human nature.
So: You want to lose the weight, and you don't want to lose the weight. In order to resolve this dilemma, you must break through and make the decision to do it. You need to tip the scales in favor of WANTING TO. But how?
There are benefits to the way you eat, and the weight you are at now. There will be benefits also if you lose the weight. So how about writing out a balance sheet? The benefits to the way you are now on one side, the benefits to losing the weight on the other.
Do you think the benefits to your life of losing weight outweigh the benefits to your life of staying where you are?
Spell it out for yourself, consider things like, "what will happen if I continue on my present course with regard to being overweight?" And "what would happen if I really gave up overeating?"
You need to work on resolving your ambivalence if you are to make this into a weight-loss success story. Resolving your ambivalence is a big part of making any important personal change.
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