For argument’s sake, let’s say there are two ways to go. Suppress the old eating habits. Learn new eating habits. Which would you choose?
There’s a famous experiment on suppression. It goes something like this. ‘Don’t think about white bears.’ Guess what? Try it and see for yourself.
If you came to the same conclusion that most people do, suppression is not the way to go. This leaves learning new ways.
How should you go about learning new eating habits that lead to weight loss and afterward to weight maintenance? The conventional wisdom is to diet and exercise. However, diet and exercise have proven to be no match for weight gain and the perpetuation of the conditions of being overweight or obese.
A diet is simply a guideline of what foods to eat, how much, and how often. Your old habits don’t respect these guidelines. So what you should learn is how to respect these guidelines. But to do so you have to change your old habits and replace them with new habits. Old habits die hard. They get in the way of learning new habits and this is what makes it difficult for a diet to do its job.
Where there is a habit, there is motivation. And where there is motivation, there is a goal. What’s your goal for not losing weight? Identify your goal and that’s what you have to deal with if you are to learn new eating habits. In fact, since behavior (and thought) are usually multi-determined, you probably have more than one goal for staying heavy and not losing weight. See what these goals are and what you can do about them.
To identify goals that are keeping you overweight, lay out the pros and cons, but with a twist. Make a list of pros for not losing weight and a list of cons for losing weight.
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