Where do you stand in relation to other women? Are they thinner than you? Are they prettier, smarter, better situated, more in control? How often do you compare yourself with other women? Do these other woman who you compare yourself with have to be real, or can they be imagined? Do you compare favorably or unfavorably?
If you set standards for yourself primarily by looking outward like this, your assessment of yourself could reflect the fact that you are unsure of yourself, have reduced self-esteem, are socially anxious, self-conscious, and perhaps even oversensitive to other people’s behavior.
Taking a strong tendency to compare yourself with others into the weight-loss process is a recipe for disaster. Losing a lot of weight always requires looking inward and marching to the beat of your own drum. It’s your weight and your diet and your motivation and your perseverance that are called for, and not some other woman’s. You might pick up a pointer or two from other women, but that is different than flat out comparing yourself.