The most powerful weapon in trying to solve a longstanding weight control problem is to do something (or everything) differently. It stands to reason, doesn’t it? Because what you’ve been doing, maybe again and again, obviously hasn’t solved the problem if it’s still persisting.
Suspend judgment, and let some new ideas develop.
Here’s an exercise in doing something different that one woman used. She began by setting out this parameter: this time I will not use a “diet” as the answer. I will come up with as many non-diet ways that I can think of to lose the weight. If I want to try dieting, I always can do that. For now, I need to generate some new methods, because so far I haven’t been able to lose the weight on any of the weight-loss diets.
It really wasn’t a case of thinking “diets don’t work”. It was a case of figuring out why diets hadn’t worked for Ellen—what other factors were playing their parts.
This was a very different thing for Ellen to do. She had always gone on a diet when she decided to lose weight. She had tried to exercise too, but the diet was her front and center plan. Dieting = Weight loss. But it didn’t.
Once she took “dieting” out of the equation, she had to find out What? = Weight loss for me
This new slant put a totally different spin on it. Ellen came up with things like:
- My best friend Josie eats like a horse and she encourages me to do it along with her.
- I can’t tell the difference between being hungry and being tired.
- I can’t seem to relax without a big bowl of something to munch on.
- I eat instead of crying.
- I give myself food to feel worthwhile.
Well, these observations led Ellen to come up with very different actions to take for losing the weight.
- She stopped making plans with Josie that had to do with mealtimes.
- She paid close attention to her fatigue level, and really tried to get more rest when she needed it.
- She got creative and came up with 10 different ways she could relax without eating.
- She wondered about what made her so often feel like crying.
- She faced the fact that a lot of the time she didn’t feel like a worthwhile person.
Without DIETING as the quick easy answer, Ellen came up with the important things that affected the issue of losing the weight for her.
And then, she decided to go on a new diet she heard about. It sounded good.
So the equation went like this:
Facing these issues + Dieting = Weight-loss success for me
It pays to break out of your rut when it comes to achieving weight-loss success. There are always different ways of looking at things, and different ways of doing things. That’s what makes the difference.