Do you ever feel as though there is a tug of war going on inside you about losing weight?
Probably, the side telling you to stop eating so much is pretty clear: Stop it, stay on the diet, you look too fat, you want to look really good, you want to feel better, you want to wear skinny jeans, you want to be attractive, up there with the best of them.
You can surely add some other things on the tugging side of losing the weight, some more personal wishes for yourself. But—how about what is tugging at you from the other side? What does that say to you? Listen—can you hear it speaking? Might it go something like this: I have to eat that, I’m starving. Why should I deny myself? I don’t know who I’d be if I were thin. I’m just a failure anyway. This is my reward. I must have the absolute biggest piece, I don’t know why. I’ll reign myself in, maybe on Monday. I’m so fat already, it really doesn’t matter any more. This is my only pleasure. I can’t stop, don’t know how…?
You won’t be able to resolve the internal dispute until you understand both sides. That’s the only way to mediate, to intervene and come up with a truce that’s acceptable to you. If you try to force yourself to diet, what happens to the things that pull at you from the opposing side?