It is not that you are a failure when it comes to losing unwanted weight. It is that a diet food plan alone is not enough for you.
You can feel supported by your weight-loss diet food plan if you establish a framework so you can make meaning out of your problem with eating, and transform the nature of dieting from a food plan only into an emotional plan as well. This framework will help you break through your stalemate in weight loss. Dieting difficulties will no longer be seen in isolation but will be appreciated as well-learned emotional patterns that you can unlearn.
Making personal changes like this starts with the realization that changing yourself is not only important to you but it is possible as well. Mastering what is difficult for you about yourself is your personal goal. Discomfort with your current state is what drives you to make important changes. How far it is to your desired goal depends upon finding the resourcefulness to make the changes you need to make.
Successful weight loss is not only gauged by the dieter going on a diet or starting to lose some weight. Any step in the right direction is being successful, especially emotional change steps.