Stop and smell the roses. Or is it stop and smell the coffee. No matter. Mine is wake up and smell the bacon. I hate to tell you but I’ve been eating bacon all along. I’d love you to know that bacon and other such goodies are now guilt free. Yes, I’ve done it, after a ga-zillion tries. No use crying over spilt milk. Well, to tell the truth, I don’t have to cry over spilt milk—not ever again.
What’s all the excitement? I lost all my unwanted weight and I know how to keep the weight off. In fact, I’ve been keeping weight off successfully for the past three or four years. See, I don’t have to be precise anymore. I no longer count the days or the weeks or the months or the pounds.
What’s my secret? There are no secrets when it comes to successful weight loss and successful weight maintenance. Everyone who has ever tried losing some weight can tell you what she did right and what she did wrong. I did lots wrong but look at me.
OK, I’ll share my biggest weight-loss key. It’s won’t-power. Not willpower. Won’t-power. It’s whenever I did one of those wrong things for the umpteenth time and I was sick of myself. That’s when my won’t-power kicked in. Actually it was all my doing. I kicked it in. And it worked. Let me tell you it worked. Almost by osmosis I began relying more and more on my won’t-power. It kept working. So I kept working it.
What exactly is won’t-power? No secret there either. We all have won’t-power. It goes like this. “I won’t ever do that again.” And then you do. So you take it up a notch: “I WONT EVER DO THAT AGAIN.” And another notch if you need to. And so on and so forth until it becomes a regular part of you.
Your won’t-power becomes a bad habit that does good. Keep doing it, and it’ll be there when you need it. It’s not that you’ll never do wrong again. I do the wrong things still. Too much of a fattening food. Sometimes I forget that I know how to eat less. When I visit my aunt and uncle—my favorite aunt and uncle—there’s no stopping me. If you were there, you’d see first-hand, some out-of-control eating. Well, out-of-control eating for someone who has taken the weight-loss journey, arrived at her destination, and upped her won’t power capability along the way.
If I eat too much, I still worry and watch it. But now I believe my worry and watchfulness is part of my won’t-power. My guilt is part of my won’t-power. My dissatisfaction with myself is part of my won’t-power. I don’t have to exercise self-restraint to the point of regret, and that’s why each morning I can say to myself if I wish, “Wake up and smell the bacon.”