Your weight-loss psychology is a tricky and complicated business. We all know how important believing in yourself and having self-esteem are for undertaking the weight-loss process. Trying to reduce your weight is definitely a test of whether you feel good enough about yourself. Up and down, in and out, try as you may, try as you might—you’ve got to keep your level of self-esteem in sight.
Onto the scene comes a new form of self-esteem, a pathological form. It’s called defensive self-esteem, and it’s mighty difficult to detect if you’re the one doing the detecting. Defensive self-esteem, you might say, is a first cousin once removed of unrealistic optimism. It has as its core function to protect you from your own feelings of insecurity and boost your evaluation of yourself.
If you are having difficulty losing weight, check yourself out and see if you are operating on truly good self-esteem or is it defensive self-esteem. Remember, there are ways to improve self-esteem, and improving self-esteem might have to be one of your tasks if you’re finding it difficult to lose weight.