What makes you persist at losing weight, do diet after diet, despite your previous failures at sticking to the diet or failure to lose weight? Do you use unrealistic optimism to override your previous failure experiences? It seems foolish to use a solution over and over if it doesn’t solve the problem. So what’s going on here?
You can wish, can’t you? Wishing you could lose all your unwanted weight. Ah, yes!
You can be wishful about a new diet or a better exercise regimen. You can have faith in the new and better, or you might leave your faith with the already tried but not yet succeeded. Whatever the case, you can wish, can’t you?
Is it wrong to be wishful? What if you fail again? Then where did being wishful get you?
You have to be aware that to quit doing something the way you’ve been doing it, and do it differently, takes more than simply wishing to do it. You have to by now also know it takes more than one try. For any personal change you have to make any number of attempts before you actually make the change. This is true with permanent weight loss as well.
So despite your previous failures, if you are still in there trying—the second, the fifth, the eleventh, the umpteenth time—you’ve obviously hung on to your wish. Now you have to find a way to make your wish come true. As Thomas Edison is reported to have said, “I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways to NOT make a light bulb."