by Maria's Last Diet
Do you know that a problem you might be having with another person can cause weight gain? Here is how it can happen. Rather than think of your problem with this other person as simply a problem you are having, you think the problem is something that defines you.
For example, you may be in a relationship where the other person is primarily a taker. The taker is not only a taker, but he often tells you that you do not satisfy him. He tells you this with words and with frequent nonverbal expressions of his dissatisfaction. You love this person and believe he loves you too, yet you feel like you don’t do enough for him. If you did, you think, he wouldn’t be so dissatisfied with you.
Now it may sound simple-minded, but you turn to eating too much food and snacking on calorie-rich food for relief. By doing this you are getting some satisfaction. You are also being a taker and not just a giver. Then too, you are making yourself terribly unhappy by gaining weight you don’t want to gain. You look awful to yourself, and you feel awful in a number of ways. You get out of breath too easily for your liking. You suffer from indigestion. You feel too full. You can’t stand yourself for not standing up for what you really want, and that’s not to overeat and snack in this weight gaining way.
As you can see, you’re in the position of only having yourself to blame—and it’s about your pattern of eating and not your acquiescent relationship to the taker. You’ve taken yourself way off course like this. You’ve preserved your relationship with the taker because you love him and you’ve directed your anger and hatred toward yourself for being such a wimp about not being able to stop something you do not like yourself for doing—eating too much food and snacking on fattening food.