If…just if, mind you, you took a careful look at your relationships over the years, would you get to know why you developed a pattern of eating that was weight gaining and weight maintaining?
Start anywhere. Start with whatever relationship you think of first. Examine it and your other relationships closely. Ask yourself all kinds of questions about each relationship. You can begin with a general question such as “what was the relationship like” or “how was the relationship for you.” But don’t stop at general questions. Get to the particulars of the relationship. And if you find yourself characterizing these relationships in generalities, like “happy childhood,” “good marriage,” and “satisfying friendship,” ask yourself why, for this relationship, might you be avoiding the particulars, the details, the nitty-gritty of the relationship.
Try to see how the impact of your relationships led to an eating pattern, which is weight gaining and weight maintaining. Having this kind of self-knowledge is a solid weight loss step, very different from dieting and exercise, but quite essential to the process of weight loss.