“I’m so fat.” “No, you’re not.” “I, not you, am really the fat one here. Just look at all of this arm flab.”
Fat talk. Back and forth it goes between you and a friend or between you and a family member. You make disparaging comments about your weight and your body and the other person refutes your self-criticism. Or the other person may respond to you bad- mouthing your body by disparaging her own body.
What’s the sense of fat talking? It looks like disparaging your body and your weight facilitates your interaction with another woman in a self-humbling way. But at the same time you're using your self-consciousness and concern about your weight and body in this socially acceptable manner to feel less vulnerable to shame and other weight loss motivators. Does this mean that fat talk removes the incentive to reduce your weight? Yes, it does.
Take this short quiz and see how much fat talk you engage in.
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When I am with friends or family I complain that…
I am fat
I am not in shape
my arms are too flabby
I eat too much
I have fat rolls
my clothes are too tight
I eat fattening foods
I have a big butt
my jeans make me look fat
I wish I had your thighs
I feel too big all over
my stomach sticks out too much
What are your favorite fat talk lines? And please don’t say you have none.