We all know how important believing in yourself and having great self-confidence are for momentous undertakings like trying to lose weight. There is, however, a natural tendency to protect your self-confidence and self-esteem when you’re not up to the job and can’t lose weight. Being overconfident and having unrealistic optimism are often chosen then as the go-to methods of self-protection. This is not a good move if you want to lose weight. Unrealistic optimism and being overconfident prevent you from developing the skills it takes to lose weight. When you are being defensive like this, you will not carefully think about, spell out, practice, and learn the different weight loss skills you will need. A truer than true way to build confidence is having the skills it takes to lose your unwanted weight. To have the skills and gain the confidence you will have to liberate yourself from adopting any false form of confidence, even to defend yourself against loss of self-confidence and self-esteem.