by Maria's Last Diet
Hey, it is not easy to lose a lot of weight. In fact, almost everyone—practically 99.999 percent—finds it difficult to lose weight. So much control is required to shed those extra pounds, and this makes it hard. BUT—what makes it even harder is what you cannot control because you have a conflict. Here is the usual conflict: to eat it or not to eat it. Seems simple and straightforward enough. But, oh no. It is like you have two heads, one telling you this and the other head telling you that. This is a case where two heads are definitely not better than one.
It is one thing if you are of two minds about what to do or what not to do and you know you are of two minds. There are those times, lots of them unfortunately during the weight loss process, when you are not aware you are of two minds. You see only one, a mind made up. The other “mind” is there, though, out of your line of vision, tucked neatly away from any suspicious inkling on your part that this other mind even exists. Let’s for reality sake call this your unconscious or your nonconscious, because you are not aware that you are of two minds and they are in conflict.
During your attempts to achieve successful weight loss, this blind spot happens more often than you would like. It is front and center when you go to eat some fattening food like a luscious piece of cake on the restaurant menu and you are hot and heavy into dieting so you can lose your unwanted weight. In fact, you have wanted to lose weight for the longest time and you’ve been actually doing it. So what’s with the cake?
You think of the cake as a diet cheat. It is that, but it is a lot more. Wanting the cake is a competing goal. This goal of yours became activated as soon as you made plans to join some friends for a meal out. You did not know it then, but you got a warning trace of it later as you skimmed down the menu to the dessert section to see if there was any fruit for dessert. You passed the list of cakes to get to the one fruit dessert on the menu.
The unconscious goal of eating cake was already on your menu, though. You had no idea it was there. Thinking of going to a restaurant activated it. Being so good on your weight loss regimen got your unconscious juices flowing and also activated the reward-for-being-so-good goal of having a piece of cake. You did not know any of this, because all of it took place outside of your awareness. You did not know when you stepped foot in the restaurant that you were going to have a conflict.
Your unconscious intention to have cake was part of the old you, always lurking because old habits die hard. The new you—the one that you were conscious of, was still not fully formed, not yet fully effective, and it loses the battle and you order cake.
The conflicts you will meet on your weight loss journey, and you will meet them time after time, are what you do not know that is going on inside of you; that “other head” of yours. If you are to have success with your conflicts and move on, you have to do something about what you cannot see and what you do not realize is there.