My friend Anna came over yesterday and complained about being unable to lose weight. This is not something we usually talk about because Anna is very sensitive about her weight. Nevertheless, there we were talking together about Anna’s trouble losing weight.
The conversation got around to feelings and food, and Anna said when she sneaks a fattening snack or overeats, she doesn’t know what she’s feeling. She made such a point of not knowing what she’s feeling that I couldn’t help but say to her that this in itself is a feeling. And I was right. I followed with, “why don’t you tell me what not knowing what you’re feeling is like.” Joining Anna like this opened the door for Anna to explore her inability to know her own feelings.
Guess what? It turned out that Anna was afraid to know what she was feeling. And there were good reasons for her being fearful. But that’s for another time.