Let’s say you’ve been given a pill containing a new breakthrough chemical combination specially formulated for a woman’s metabolism. What it does is make you thin overnight, as thin as you ever wanted to be, as thin as a model. You simply take the pill before you go to sleep and you wake up the next day to see that you’ve shrunk down to the size of your fantasies….
The evolution required to be at ease in this new body simply did not take place. Change did not have the chance to be created by ingenious you.
You would no doubt be left with unresolved issues, issues that were embedded in your overeating and extra weight. You can’t circumvent these issues, and that little pill that took the weight off by pure magic did not set them to rest. These unresolved matters might very well send you back to that same balm again, that same way of self-medicating, or calming yourself, or rewarding yourself, or distracting yourself, etc.—because you didn’t develop better ways….
It’s a good thing, when you stop to think about it, that there is no fabulous pill to do all the work for you. If there were, it could lead to chaos and more disappointment. Instant thin, like instant wealth, might bring more trouble than it’s worth. To have a dream come true is very important for sure, but it’s not a magic trick, and it doesn’t happen at light speed in five easy steps or anything like that. It’s a journey after all.
Excerpt from the new book How to Break the Seven Rules of Women Who Stay Fat. by Julie North Schwarz & Kenneth Schwarz Ph.D. Symmetry Press, 2016.