She starts. “I had a terrible day yesterday. The kids were home from school and each one of them had a friend over. I thought I could handle it, but I couldn’t. The constant need for me to do this and do that for them and the din of their play really got me going. I mean I just didn’t know which end was up. Frazzled as I was I still had the energy to make lunch replete with home baked brownies. Everyone loved the lunch, especially me. I ate until the cows came home. The kids went back to playing and I sat amidst the dirty dishes and still half-filled plate of brownies and ate to my heart’s content.”
She regrets. “I know full well that I shouldn’t have eaten everything in sight. After all, I had just dropped a good number of pounds and I was still counting on my resolve to keep the weight loss routine going. But oh no, this was not to be. Why was it that I had to be so bad?”
Psychologically speaking: What made this woman go way off her weight loss regimen? Was it her kids causing such a commotion? The woman did blame her heightened emotional reaction on the commotion. Looking further into the matter, however, you might find that what actually caused this woman to get so frazzled was that she felt helpless to do anything about what was disturbing her, in this case it was the kids’ commotion. Feeling helpless put her in the position of having to be too passive a recipient of the kids’ behavior. This might be the kind of unassertive position this woman has been in many times before, and not only with children. The only two active things she could do for herself was to make a nice meal as a good mother and host, and then actively eat and eat and eat.